Sunday, December 28, 2014


Watching intervention last night made me realize something and that was so me before the stroke. I used alcohol, pot, pills and sex to escape my depression about my dad and everything. I would like to think I wasn't as bad as the Intervention people but maybe I was. That is why I'm so thankful for my stroke, it truly saved me!

Saturday, December 27, 2014

last night

 Anyone else would be in the hospital with the pain I'm having!And why don't I go?Because I'm stubborn and I have plans tomorrow

Saturday, December 20, 2014


Went to the movies tonight with my mom .The movie wasn't my cup of tea but she liked it and it was in3D .So it was a good 2 hour eye exercise for me .After the movies though some bratty teenagers would not stop staring and whispering about me so they almost got an "accidental" run into with my wheelchair

Thursday, December 18, 2014


I feel like crying I'm so frustrated with pain .For the past few days I have had horrible menstrual cramps .Im trying everything and they won't stop ...I feel like the little girl in Look Who's Talking Too when she gets the shot "Will the pain ever go away ?"

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Wednesday, December 3, 2014


Monday was my big day for the UD students to do the presentation about me !It went great and here it is ...

Sunday, November 9, 2014

I like sharing this

Life list

1 walk, independently
2 talk clearly again
3 have or adopt children
4 get married
5 sell 1000s of books
6 produce a movie about my life
7 go to London
8 go to Disney world again
 9 be less of a control freak
10 develop an actual Law stating doctor's have to test your blood to see if you clot easy before starting birth control

past and present

When I saw my mom on Friday I got so emotional I was crying so much  because it was kind of like I was 15 again and reminded me of R ( my dad's dad). He was the last person i saw in ICU with tubes and stuff 

 But he did come in my dream that night and we hugged for like 10 minutes .It was so cool because I could actually wrap my arms around him and really feel him

Saturday, November 8, 2014


Well our prayers were answered and her surgery went great! Two of my friends took me .And we got there about 3.We met my aunt but then my brother ,our grandmother and his friend came .She got done right before we left but She told us to leave because her head hurt and traffic was going to be a bitch hahahahaha

Tuesday, November 4, 2014


Just had the best walk earlier! 92 feet and it was so easy and so controlled!

Saturday, October 25, 2014

I said no thank you

The nurse tonight helping me with dinner asked me " do you use thick it? "my immediate response was to shake my head no really fast hahahahaha been there done that,I used it when I first had my stroke

Friday, October 24, 2014

It's official

Almost cried just now. I found my first gray hair! Nataja made fun of me because I seriously got teary eyed when we found it.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

suck it up

So I got some rough news yesterday .My Mom has to have surgery,brain surgery in a few weeks.After sobbing like a baby for an hour this weird calmness has come over me .Like "Buck up Jessica, be the big sister and daughter .Mom was brave for you so now be brave for her "My goal is to not cry in front of her about it .And it is working so far .They have to shave the back of her head so to keep us both smiling  I tell her she is going to have a reverse mullet hahahahaha

Thursday, October 16, 2014


Sat today on the mat completely by myself for about 30 sec and Tuesday walked 30 feet with just the harness and my PTs for assistance

Monday, October 13, 2014


For the next time you enter a grocery store down south vs up north and you are driving a wheelchair / large cart. The aisles are much wider down south

Sunday, October 12, 2014


I have the whips and jangles and i have not even had coffee yet. My grandfather called being anxious and jittery that. Im antzy about the book

Thursday, October 9, 2014


Im so bored and anxious. My book is basically done and now it's really in the hands of my friend helping me and the people helping me collect money for the publisher so the control freak in me is flipping out! I feel like that scene in Corky Romano when he accidentally inhales cocaine and talks to the kids " question? Anyone have a question? You do? You don't? You do? You don't? "

Wednesday, October 8, 2014


Omg it's true! They say after 30 your stomach gets bigger. I am 3 months away and my stomach looks awful. Bring in the extra water and extra exercise, you're not getting me

hard work

I just walked in pt without something in front of me! Just the harness and my pt's on both sides! It was our first time trying it. They were laughing at me because they usually freeze me but I was huffing and puffing and sweating bullets

Monday, October 6, 2014

Detoured Destiny

Getting closer and closer to publishing my book !!Gathering all the loose ends .This is really exciting but the anal perfectionist in me is freaking out !!

Sunday, October 5, 2014

great quote

But who prays for Satan? Who in eighteen centuries, has had the common humanity to pray for the one sinner that needed it most, our one fellow and brother who most needed a friend yet had not a single one, the one sinner among us all who had the highest and clearest right to every Christian's daily and nightly prayers, for the plain and unassailable reason that his was the first and greatest need, he being among sinners the supremest?
- Mark Twain's Autobiography

Friday, October 3, 2014


Well my speech went great! Me, my roommate and our case manager went to the school. It was the staff and we both got standing ovations! They even asked questions after. And yes I was still nervous

Thursday, October 2, 2014


I have another speech tomorrow morning at a high-school. And I'm fine,seriously

Tuesday, September 23, 2014


Do you ever feel like you are screaming and nobody hears you? I'm standing on a chair, waiving my arms and screaming " Hey! Over here! Listen to this! Help me with this! "

Friday, September 19, 2014


Went to school today to get things together for January .We might just have another doctor in the family eventually lol (my dad and uncle are doctors )

Thursday, September 18, 2014


Had an interview last night with some students doing a report on me and my stroke, done 2 of my speeches and more planned and starting college in January to do Psychology! I like understanding people and it will probably help with my speeches. Everything is linking together, this is really cool!

Tuesday, September 16, 2014


Several months ago I took a personality test for college,to see my strengths. I got the results today,it read me like a book.It felt good someone praising my empathy and understanding!It said I should write a book lol

Sunday, September 14, 2014

try again

Several people have asked me " How do you stay so strong? " My quick response would be my Faith, but my long and tangible answer would be how my parents raised us. You try something no matter what, because you might like it after. I remember vividly as a child crying hysterically standing in line with my parents for a roller coaster I thought was going to scary and it turned out to be great! I know every parent reading this is probably flabbergasted they made us cry trying something but it made me and my brother so independent and willing to try anything! Im almost 30 and I still live like that. Public speaking and sitting on the edge of the physical therapy mat and surfing and some other things scare the bejesus out of me but the feeling of accomplishment after makes it all worth it! Yeah I would definitely say my children and probably my brother's children will be raised like that. Try it no matter what because you might like it


I have finally reached the point of my book to find a publisher.So me, my friend and family came up with the great idea to do raffle baskets to raise money. I decided that the easiest way for me to fund raise money would be to go around the building I live and sell tickets and use their bus to go out into the community to get donations for my basket . But (of course ) the place I live won't let me sell anymore and cancelled my donations trip."Duh Jessica nothing in your life now can be that easy .I mean seriously ,how many beepn obstacles can you give me ?"Their decision did deter me but the word CAN'T just revs up my engine to blow past you . So get ready for this chick to sell tons of tickets without you and still publish this book

Sunday, August 31, 2014


You really do lose it if you don't use it. I look at things now like "are you serious jessica you know this shit". The thought of this actually brings a tear to my eye because I'm extremely hard on myself and "dammit jessica you have to get it perfect ". But it's more than actual education knowledge it's little common sense things. It's like my life stopped at 19 and restarted when I moved to MCC. Not to say my aides and semester of college before coming here didn't teach me anything, because they did. But one time here someone said to me " we need to stick you outside with some sunscreen so you turn brown ". Granted I didn't really use much sunscreen before but "duh jessica". And another embarrassing moment came when someone here explained to me how learning music is linked to learning math."Duh jessica ". My life and body are no longer perfect please let my mind stay perfect

Thursday, August 28, 2014


I really want to go to Tennessee for my birthday but I don't want to go and get the pity look from majority of the people there. "Poor pitiful Jessica, let's just stare at her ". And it's always people that knew me before the stroke. Why do you think I live in Delaware and don't associate with those people.

Friday, August 15, 2014


Had my first ( well second ) facial today.*big sigh* hopefully the first of many.Dont scrub your face for 10 years and tell me how it feels!

Monday, August 4, 2014


I have some exciting news !My old PT teachs and wants me to video chat my story to her students .Then some more good news Two other people I know are figuring out if I can talk to their old class and organization !Im so excited and lucky to get to share my story and educate people about the dangers of birth control

Sunday, August 3, 2014


Whoever invented heating pads and tylenol with codene deserve a Nobel prize

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

big sigh

So Friday is my first big speaking arrangement to tell my story and ...I can do this

Monday, July 7, 2014


Being outside by myself sunbathing is my thinking time .And I figured out something today .One thing about being in my situation .You got to be stubborn and it helps to be a smart ass

Friday, June 27, 2014

I can do this

To promote this blog and my bookI think it's best for me to start speaking at schools .I can totally do this but ever since my strstroke just being in front of big groups gives me ...anxiety

Friday, June 20, 2014


Well they finally reached a tie with my all-time high of trying to get my blood! Most people do 2 to 3 times and decide "O this is painful I'm going to stop and let somebody else try " but not this lady, she did 7. All in my hands which is the most painful area and causes the most bruises. Thank you lady for ruining my hands for at least a week!

Sunday, June 8, 2014


My surfing event with Life Rolls On is next week !Getting my base tan and watching what I eat :Check

Thursday, June 5, 2014


So if you read my blog you probably know I have a huge ridiculous fear of falling and sitting on the edge of things .And this fear of mine is hilarious to everyone especially my physical therapists.They always say "You go surfing and horseback riding and bungee jumping but put you on the pt mat table and you freak out and hyperventilate and jump "So today like other days I grudgingly got on the pt mat for them to time my sitting by myself balance .Last time I did 1 min 5 sec and today was ...3 min 25 sec !!

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

who's the boss

I can't standl when people telling me what to eat!Well not really what,but the consistency and texture

Sunday, June 1, 2014

my fab shirts


My new favorite movie quote " Pray for me but above else pray for the cause " from The Patriot

My other favorite is from Jerry Maguire " Well boo _n hoo"

Thursday, May 29, 2014


I went to the gynecologist today and it's more tests.They want to know what's wrong with me before they decide how to treat it. I knew that this wouldn't be an easy fix. That's my life in a nutshell for ya,not an easy fix.But I'm glad they agree with me to be hesitantabout me taking hormones

Saturday, May 17, 2014

surfer girl

I'm so excited!My yearly surfing event with Life Rolls Onis next month.Gotta start watching what I eat to be bathing suit ready andpracticing holding my breath in the pool because I fail off the board at least once

please donate

Monday, April 28, 2014

gynecologist today

They gave me stronger meds for my cysts and period cramps and if that doesn't work i have to get surgery for them to look to see if i have endometriosis.

Monday, April 21, 2014

Busy bee

I'm quite the busy girl lately. Working on my book,looking into school, looking into me moving into an apartment...

Monday, April 14, 2014

Ms Davenport

I'm getting so much book stuff done  lately.I feel like a little businesswoman

Saturday, April 5, 2014


I have been researching my blood disorder a lot lately and I'm finding most of my problems are from it. My fainting,blood sugar .,irritable bowel

Sunday, March 30, 2014

frequent fainter

Ever since my stroke when I get really hot and dehydrated I faint.But I never really linked everything together until yesterday.I found out that dehydration stimulates my hypothalamus (the part of the brain that regulates temperature and mine was affected by my stroke ) and cause me to faint. So now I just drink extra water

Sunday, March 16, 2014

more of my brother's visit

 Don't we look just so adorable
 they were about to leave and I was crying so Logan whispered a joke in my ear
 mom,Blake and me
 my cute little brother is 23!
me and Blake with our Granny

Friday, February 14, 2014

my stomach hurts from laughing

I came up with the perfect group following name for my book. You know how Lady Gaga has her Little Monster's. We are The Clotters / Team Clot Alot! HahAHAHA 2

Thursday, February 13, 2014


Writing this book is showing me that my stroke really matured me  almost more than affecting me physically

Wednesday, February 5, 2014


Sorry I haven't been really communicative lately, it's just crunch time for my book

Saturday, February 1, 2014

great thing ?!

my friend that is helping me with my book made us a deadline of 3 months .Part of me is peeing my pants with excitement and the other part is having a slight panic attack .Yes it is going to educate people about the dangers of birth control but it's also putting my life out on display .

Monday, January 27, 2014

This just plain sucks

It really sucks being like this in emergency situations.My grandmother had surgery to remove the cancer and everything.That was last week, then this morningmy mom text me that my grandmother was really sick and they were goingback to the hospital.And granted my mom has text me a few times today, it's not like I can call and be like"h what's going on? I'm on my way"

Thursday, January 23, 2014

easing into it

When I walked today in the pool I was amazed how easy it and other things are getting

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

about time

Omg guess what I just did! Opened my door with my hand! It took me like 10 minutes and some help positioning my chair but I did it.

Wednesday, January 15, 2014


I forgot how freeing and liberating my independence was. Today I went downstairs and upstairs and all over the building completely by myself, all day! You probably take your independence for granted but it feels good to have some of mine back 2

Sunday, January 12, 2014

story   You should reallycheck out this story.Everytime I come across a story like this I get the chills and crymy eyes out thinking, I wasn't able to tell her my story to warn her.More reason to get my book done!

Friday, January 3, 2014

20 something

What is the customary age to start lying about your age?Yesterday as a joke I told someone it was my 26th birthday and not 29th. hahahahaha